How to combat avoidance

Without further ado…

  1. Post it notes – everywhere, all the time.
  2. Do it with someone – make yourself accountable.
  3. Snap it – take photos of the end-goal of whatever it is you’re avoiding.
  4. Rope in your mother – they will nag you into submission.
  5. Alert! – Set 1000078963 alarms and reminders on your phone. Difficult to ignore.
  6. Stick – Set a consequence or forfeit for yourself to spur yourself on.
  7. Carrot – Plan a reward for afterwards. Like cheesecake.
  8. Share the load – Let someone know you are stressing about it – it automatically gets smaller.
  9. Take note – have a specific notebook that tracks your avoidance triggers and successes!
  10. Accept – Be present – allow yourself to be perturbed by something. Listen to your internal monologue and learn what you are experiencing e.g. ‘my stomach is churning, I feel sick, but I am ok, I am still breathing.’
  11. Limber up – body language mirrors your intentions.
  12. Make a pros and cons list – evaluate the situation.
  13. Part and parcel – break the task down into its component parts and ask for help with any individual steps that are daunting.
  14. Be lame! – choose some inspirational quotes, like ‘You have as many hours in a day as Beyonce’ (Disclaimer: you actually do not because you still have to clean your house and go to the supermarket).
  15. Practice – start a ritual that feels natural, like rubbing a necklace you wear every day, crack your knuckles, roll your shoulders, massage your palms, touch a tattoo…

 

Get on with it!

Flavour of the Month: Brooklyn

My style crush this month is Saoirse Ronan as Eislis Lacey in Brooklyn. It’s a wonderful, vibrant film with a gorgeous wardrobe. Set in 1950s Brooklyn, New York and County Wessex, Ireland alternately, the film explores one Irish immigrant’s experience of love and loss in two very different cultures.
Ronan’s character is elegant and ultra-feminine. She co-ordinates like no-one’s business! Handbag-shoe matching is featured; sunglasses game is strong. As her future gets brighter, so she becomes more glamorous.
If you love circle skirts, collared necklines, cat-eye sunglasses, cute hats and cinched waists, this is the film for you. Also, adorable man with an accent like a sleepy puppy. Would recommend.

Panic at the Wardrobe!

Don’t look at getting dressed like an opening to the outside world on those days when the thought of unknown humans getting in your space makes you want to squirm on a galactic level. Get yourself to Narnia, love. Here’s how to take the panic out of the gaping gateway of your wardrobe:

  • Jump on it: Jumpsuits = one decision =simple!
  • Underneath it all: Wear your most fabulous, flattering underwear – instant confidence boost!
  • The long and short of it: Find a length of skirt/ cut of trouser that really suits you and stick with it – work it like a formula!
  • The one: Have a go-to outfit and with multiple versions/ colours of the components so that you always have a back up plan!
  • Step up: Start from the shoes up – crack on a statement boot to tie your outfit together, or use nude flats with difficult to match prints.
  • Icon: Try to channel one of your style icons for a week. Think about how they would accessorise an outfit – try out different signature pieces – high waisted pencil skirt, 80s polka dots…
  • Act on instinct: The first thing you choose is usually the right one. Don’t overthink it!
  • Block black: Go head to toe black, with a turtle neck, for a dramatic, uncomplicated look.
  • Matchmaker: Colour match to something around you – your nail varnish, for example. Work with what you already have on your body. Why not match your tones to your hair or eye colour…
  • Phone a friend: If you’re really in a panic, ask someone else’s advice and take the pressure off – they will be able to see you more objectively anyway!

Above all – don’t sweat it! One bad outfit won’t make you a bad person…

Top Ten Ted Talks on Feminism

Equality starts small; inequality is enormous. Let’s get riled up and change things.

Ready for change, now? Good.